The Five of Cups: Too Much or Not Enough?

Five of Cups

Rider Waite Smith Tarot

Whenever I pull the Five of Cups in a reading, I feel like it’s asking me “are you spending too much time mourning a loss, or not enough?

Often this card is seen as a card that shows stagnation created by focusing too hard on what you’ve lost, while ignoring what you still possess. This is a 100% valid way to interpret this card, but there is another side to that coin which is worth considering.

Sometimes we need to focus on the loss or the disappointment. Ignoring pain can be just as detrimental as wallowing in it. Sometimes we need to intentionally interact with our pain, to mindfully mourn, that way we can process and then move on.

If you’re in a space where you are trying to focus only on the good and not willing to acknowledge what is hurting you, the Five of Cups may be asking you to intentionally set aside some time to ball your eyes out, or punch a pillow, or throw yourself a pity party, or bust out an extra hard workout at the gym (just don’t injure yourself, ok?), or whatever you need to do.

The key to the Five of Cups, whichever way it appears for you, is that once you’re done creating the space to express your hurt and honor your grief, you DO still need to pick up those other two cups and move on…move forward.

The Hanged Man and Surviving Family

The Hanged Man from The Tarot Illuminati

The Tarot Illuminati

The Hanged Man has been my touchstone during my holiday visit with my family-of-origin. Family, especially biological family (as opposed to chosen family), has a knack for triggering…well, everything. Shadow stuff, childhood trauma, if it can be triggered, chances are family will do it, whether intentionally or inadvertently. I imagine that is why there are so many family-at-the-holidays movies made. It happens to most everyone and we can all relate.

The Hanged Man represents inactions. Sometimes it’s forced inaction. Sometimes it’s chosen inactions. Focusing on the Hanged Man has helped me keep from reacting when family pushes my buttons or triggers me. That’s not to say I don’t stand up for myself if something happens that is not ok (or that I don’t still react or get triggered), but it allows me to pause and consider where the behaviour is coming from or what the intention behind it is.

Antiquarian Tarot

Antiquarian Tarot

Standing…or hanging in the Hanged Man energy means observing what is going on and trying to understand it from the other person’s perspective. It allows for more mindful analysis of what is going on around you. It gives you the space to decide how you are going to act in response to others. It doesn’t mean that you are helpless or that things are out of your control. Quite the contrary as a matter of fact. You are taking back control from those who are triggering you or making you behave in ways that aren’t consistent with your core values. The physical situation my be out of your control, but your thoughts about the situation and your responses to it are entirely up to you. That is the power of the Hanged Man.

I hope you are all surviving, perhaps even enjoying your holiday, whichever you celebrate and however you celebrate.

Wishing you a beautiful solstice and a blessed Yule.

A Ramble About Rest, The Four of Swords & The Six of Pentacles

me1Hi Everyone,
I really wanted to write a post, since it’s been over a month, but I didn’t really know what to write about. So I’m going to start typing and we’ll see what happens.

PrintDecember has been such a blessing for me because it’s given me the opportunity to rest. November was insane busy and by the end I was definitely flirting with burnout. I did survive NaNoWriMo though, and my 50121 word novel is now safely tucked away to age like a fine wine…until I start editing it in a couple weeks or months that is. I also finished up the Fall Term at school successfully and good riddance, besides my Managerial Accounting class which was FANTASTIC, it was a pretty lousy term.

4 of Swords URWSI did a personal tarot reading for myself once November wrapped up and basically EVERY CARD was screaming at me to give myself a break and get some rest. Resting isn’t something I do well. I blame genetics and nurture. I come from a family entirely made up of Type-A personalities, also I’m a Leo and that fire energy won’t be denied. So I’ve had to figure out for myself how I can rest in a way that feels restorative to me. My version of rest often doesn’t look at all restful to other people, and that’s fine. The benchmark I use is whether or not what I’m doing is makes me feel more energized or more drained, and then I take it from there.

6 of PentaclesLearning to eliminate as much as I can from my life that falls into the “draining” category has been helpful. Also, choosing not to force myself to do things that I don’t want to do unless it’s important, has been very liberating. There are already things that I have to force myself to do; go to class, do laundry, cook meals, clean, etc, that are essential and it takes up a lot of energy just convincing myself to do them. Why would I want to waste that precious energy on doing non-essential things, like social activities that I feel obligated to attend, but don’t really want to go to, or spending hours on social media when it feels like something I am “suppose to do” instead of something that “I want to do.”

So for me, rest has been looking a lot more like the Six of Pentacles than the Four of Swords. Instead of a lot of literal rest, such as sleep or a lay down, it’s been more about conserving resources and being mindful about where I’m spending my energy, weighing each use of energy against it’s necessity and benefit.

100_0459The other great thing about December has been that without the obligation of school, I’ve had more time to read tarot and to reconnect with my passion for reading tarot. I really love slinging cards. I really love it. I started posting a Card of the Day here on the website because I wanted more opportunities to do readings and I’ve really been enjoying it. I also did a year read for a dear friend last week and it was so gratifying to work with them. I’ve since added the Plan Your 2016 Reading to my shop. I’m waiting to do my own personal year read until December 31, but I’m pretty excited. There are a lot of question marks for me for 2016, so I think a reading will be really helpful in terms of figuring out “where do I go from here?”

I’m going to wrap this up because it’s getting late, but it’s been great “talking” to you all and I hope you are doing well and navigating the holiday hullabaloo successfully, whatever that looks like for you.

Until next time,

PS ~ This is the part where my inner-critic is screaming “OMG, you can’t post this rambly piece of s#@$! No one will want to read it. Also, it’s SUPER un-professional”

Oh yeah? Well piss off inner-critic, I’m gonna hit “publish.” I’m gonna hit “publish” and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Score: Cameron 1, Inner-critic 0

November 2015 Update

8_PentaclesHello Everyone! I hope you are all having a wonderful November and a glorious holiday season. It’s been a super busy month for me, like all Eight of Pentacles all the time. I’ve been awash with schoolwork and also giving 110% to ‪#‎NaNoWriMo‬ (National Novel Writing Month). For those of you who are participating, I just reached 37,000 words and I am so proud of myself. It’s more words than I have ever written for one project…ever! Once November wraps up, I anticipate having more time for tarot. The school term will be over as well, so the only commitments I will have will be The Tarot Parlor and editing my novel. Also, I plan on designing some New Years themed readings for the shop to be available in December.
❤ Cameron