A Self-Love Tarot Spread

Nine of Bottles - The Collective Tarot

The Nine of Bottle – The Collective Tarot. Shower yourself with love and consideration.

Why is self-love so ding dang difficult? Even being a spiritually mindful person, I fall into the self-criticizing, self-disparaging trap more than I like to admit. I know better. You probably know better too. It’s really hard though, right? The “why” is often complex and convoluted, that is one reason why I find tarot to be such a powerful tool. It helps me to get an objective picture, it helps me to bypass my ego and my conditioning enough to see what is really going on.

I was browsing my computer files today when I came across this spread. I originally designed it for Self-Love September last year, but I realized that for some reason I never posted it on my blog. Anyway, here it is, better late than never. I hope you enjoy and that you find it helpful.

Self Love Tarot Reading Spread

Self Love Tarot Spread

Card #1: Area to Focus On: This card will show you where self-love is most needed in your life right now and will give a focus to the reading. You can think of it as the-heart-of-the-matter.

Card #2: Root: This card is the “why.” It represents the reason that self love is lacking in your focus area. it could be a recent trigger that is causing you to struggle right now, or it could represent the event or conditioning in your more distant past that has made self-love so difficult for you in the present. If you feel that it’s important for you to understand the underlying causes behind your current struggles with self-love, then this is a good card to spend some time digging into.

Cards #3 & #4: Advice: Now that you know what you need to focus on and the underlying cause of your current challenges with self-love, cards #3 and #4 will offer you advice on how to address those challenges. Understanding the “why” is important, but it’s also important to follow-up with some actions if you want to see improvement. These cards will give you guidance to address the present and also to heal the root cause that is making self-love so difficult.

Taking Breaks and Self Care

Universal Rider Waite Smith Deck & The Fenestra Tarot by Chatriya

Universal Rider Waite Smith Deck & The Fenestra Tarot by Chatriya

Reading tarot takes energy, a lot of energy sometimes. It is easy to underestimate how much energy you expend, especially when you are just starting out. Because of this it is of the utmost importance to be mindful of how you are feeling, to monitor your energy levels and to engage in self care. Trying to give a good tarot reading when you feel drained is miserable for everyone involved.

I recently took several weeks off from my regular reading schedule because I was feeling disconnected and was having to try way too hard to get messages from the cards. Now I feel re-energized and am connecting with the tarot better than ever. So how does one do this whole self care, taking breaks thing?

Here are my thoughts:

When you are reading regularly it is important to engage in self care (You should do the first three all the time anyway. 🙂 ). It may seem like common sense, but its easy to overlook.

stay hydrated.

get enough sleep. Naps can be a great way to recharge too.

eat enough…I have a tendency towards low blood sugar and if I don’t eat there is no way I will be able to concentrate on anything.

if you are doing several readings in one day take breaks in between.

meditate or relax before and after reading for the day.

know thyself. For me trying to do more than a couple client readings a day is too exhausting. Everyone has their own energy level and skill level which will dictate how much they can handle. No amount is too high or too low as long as you are giving quality readings and don’t feel overburdened. Ensure that your schedule works for you now.

know and stick to your reading boundaries, this will reduce stress and internal conflict.

find ways to emotionally disconnect from your readings and clients once the reading is complete so they don’t continue to draw on your energy.

listen to your body and your mind, if you start to feel burnt out don’t push it. Take a couple days off.

The Deviant Moon Tarot by Patrick Valenza

The Deviant Moon Tarot by Patrick Valenza

Even if you are the most disciplined person in the world and take care of yourself splendidly whilst you read tarot, chances are you will need to take a complete break from reading every once in awhile. How frequently will depend entirely upon you and how often you feel like you need it. Right now I’m taking a week or two off every couple months and it varies depending on how my energy levels are doing. There is no right or wrong amount of time or frequency for breaks. Listen to yourself and take an extended rest period when you need to. If you are concerned that you will lose touch with your cards then spend some time with them each day just enjoying the imagery.

When I’m taking a break from doing readings I will sometimes shift my focus and spend a week reading tarot books instead of tarot cards. I am a bit of an academic, so I find delving into 300 pages on tarot history and theory pretty relaxing and enjoyable. I understand that that may not be the case with everyone. 🙂

If you find that you don’t want to have anything to do with tarot during a break, go for it. Pack your cards away in a safe place, put your books back on the shelf, post on your blog, your website, your internet store that you are not available until a certain date and then kick back and enjoy some well earned rest. Don’t be afraid to pass on your weekly tarot meetup or your myriad of tarot related facebook groups either, they will understand.

Universal Waite Deck, Deviant Moon Tarot, The Steampunk Tarot, The Fenestra Tarot

Four of Swords: Universal Waite Deck, Deviant Moon Tarot, The Steampunk Tarot, The Fenestra Tarot